Rooted Counseling & Wellness
Couples Therapy
At Rooted Counseling, our couples therapists are committed to creating a safe and supportive space where both partners feel heard. By increasing understanding and improving communication, couples can work through challenges with greater clarity and connection.
Why Would a Couple Need Therapy?
Infidelity, betrayal, and attachment wounds are some of the most common reasons couples seek therapy. Many couples wait until they feel desperate or that their relationship is on the brink before reaching out for support. One of the most harmful things couples can do after these experiences is rush back into “normal life” without taking the time to repair, reconnect, and rebuild trust. Without the space for meaningful change and growth that therapy offers, couples often remain stuck in patterns of disconnection or choose to walk away.
Reasons Couples May Seek Therapy Together:
- 9Feeling lonely or emotionally disconnected in the relationship
- 9Rebuilding trust after an infidelity or betrayal
- 9Values or goals misalignment
- 9Attachment patterns from childhood that affect the adult relationship
- 9Ambivalence or Avoidance
- 9Navigating mixed faith marriage
- 9Blending families
- 9To establish good communication at the beginning of a relationship (pre-marital)
- 9Sexual intimacy challenges
- 9Differences in sexual desire
- 9Emotional volatility and recurring conflict
- 9Navigating life transitions (marriage, parenting, faith shifts, career changes)
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What to Expect Working Together?
Couples therapy is hard work! It demands vulnerability, honesty, responsibility, and the endurance of a long-distance runner. Unhelpful patterns in the relationship did not appear overnight; they often evolved over years. Therapy unravels those patterns and guides you in making new ways of interacting. It takes time to make those changes.
When beginning couples therapy, there is a phase of information gathering in which the therapists learns about the relationship and about the individuals. Based on this assessment, a treatment plan is created that gives clear feedback and helps couples set goals to accomplish. Setting clear goals gives the process direction and a way to measure progress.
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How We Approach Helping Couples?
The Gottman Method
This approach provides a research-backed guide, the Atone, Attune, Attach model, that dials in to repairing trust and commitment in a way that is compassionate and supportive to both partners. In this situation, the goal isn’t to fix the relationship, but to build a new one.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Rooted in attachment theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy addresses marital distress associated with low feelings of acceptance, belonging, and comfort within the relationship. EFT helps partners create a new way of interacting, reprocess emotional responses, and connect on a deeper emotional level increasing the feelings of secure attachment through greater understanding and conversation.
Discernment Counseling
When couples are on the brink of divorce, the therapeutic approach is different than traditional couples therapy. Discernment Counseling is focused on helping the couple determine the next steps for the relationship by choosing one of three paths:
- Leave it as is
- Separation or divorce
- Committing to being all in and giving 100% effort for the next 6 months to try and save the marriage.
The decision to end the relationship does not indicate that therapy didn’t work!
Just the opposite- therapy can help the couple gain clarity to make a difficult decision and move forward.
Other Approaches
A couples therapist may integrate other therapy modalities including CBT, IFS, Somatic Therapy, ACT, Emotion Coaching parenting, and self-soothing skills tailored to the unique needs of both the individuals and the relationship.
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Why We Care About Your Results?
Many couples are experiencing communication difficulties and are looking to learn better ways to navigate conflict and misunderstandings. Often, when you don’t feel heard or understood, the relationship doesn’t feel like a place where you can find acceptance, belonging, or comfort. When the feelings of safety and connection decline within the relationship, and couples have done their best to make repairs and improvements, or aren’t sure what to do to make things better, enlisting the knowledge and expertise of a trained couples therapist can make all the difference.
Improving communication goes beyond learning skills. It requires learning to deepen your understanding of your partner’s inner world, creating the safety needed in the relationship to be vulnerable, letting go of the need to be right or to win, and trusting that your partner will receive your vulnerabilities with care and consideration.
Couples therapy helps partners learn how to hold multiple perspectives at the same time yet, allowing each experience to be valid without minimizing or excluding the other.
FAQs
Who would benefit from couple’s therapy?
Couples therapy is for every couple regardless the length of time in the relationship it can support where you are at.
- Couples therapy is most effective when both partners are committed to the relationship and have the emotional capacity to engage in the work, not only during times of crisis.
- It supports couples who are working to rebuild trust and intentionally continue choosing one another.
- It is helpful for partners who have tried to improve their relationship on their own but continue to feel disconnected or unsure how to move forward.
What are the barriers that prevent couples from attending therapy?
Oftentimes, fear can be one of the biggest barriers. Internal fear, fear of the unknown, fear of the partnership coming apart. That is when couples therapy is most needed and the individuals in the partnership can be seen and heard in a safe space from an expert that is there support the relationship.
What if my partner is hesitant about attending couples therapy?
Having one of the individuals in the partnership have ambivalent feelings about couples therapy is normal. Couples therapy is not to prove that one person is right or the other wrong. Is to support the relationship at a pace that honors both partners.
What if my partner isn’t willing to attend couples therapy?
Even if your partner isn’t interested in couples work, you can still influence your relationship by the work you do individually. A relationship simply gets more momentum and can deepen and improve when both partners are committed to doing the work on their relationship.
Can couples recover after betrayal?
Couples therapy creates a safe space where both partners can feel seen and heard. It allows room for grief, accountability, and repair, while supporting the couple in strengthening their connection and tending to the ruptures that led to the betrayal.
What are the Myths About Couples therapy?
- They’re going to gang up against me
- The relationship has to be in crisis
- Only couples who are getting divorced need therapy
- Fear of the relationship ending, or the pain of being fully honest, can make taking that first step feel overwhelming.
Christianne Davis, AMFT
Erin Anguino, LMFT
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- Fax: (801)590-7003
- 11620 State Street, Ste # 1403 & #1404 Draper, UT 84020
- 1657 N Guardian Dr. Saratoga Springs, UT 84045
Our Mission
We provide a holistic approach to emotional and relational healing through integrating the mind, body, & spirit. In addition to standard psychotherapy, we offer clinical yoga, skills classes and health & wellness resources.
